LEARN TO ENJOY LIFE

The aim of human life is seek ,discover and derive pleasure in all the activities of life ,even learn to derive it from those situations that seem to be miserable and pains producing . This can be easily done by changing our Attitude and a superlative view at life .
" God made the man and man made the city " is an old saying . man ,so far does not know who or what is the power that made him but it is clear and confirm that HE mad man in HIS own image as the best on Earth with limited powers and potentials though , to discover to improve him , to create ,recreate, change and modify and make his surroundings better for his life and living . all the creation seems to man's help and this implies that man should care at his best the whole of resources available to him , living and non-living .

Moreover man's mind is as of potentials , is adventurous , naughty , playful and feeling always uneasy and toiling here and there ; some time to easiness but some times to risk and challenges . everywhere his aim to enjoy the events and derive pleasure. he has discovered taste in chillies ,pepper and bitter -gourd that he learns in his advance age . ( A small boy below five knows the sweet and saline )
Death is the worst enemy of man but when man is idle and nothing to do ,it goes naughty and make games even with death and plays through adventures .climbs the mountains ,measures the depth of seas and flies in the sky in blowing balloons . 

 Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how we can turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers.( Leigh Hunt )

In the part of this universe that we know there is great injustice, and often the good suffer, and often the wicked prosper, and one hardly knows which of those is the more annoying.( Bertrand Russell )
Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.( Helen Keller )
Like me or any of you may have felt you were passed by when talents were handed out. But with God's help you can make a difference in this world.
When I was in school I tried very hard to be included for many different activities, but always seemed to be the one sitting on the bench or not chosen. It made me feel rejected, stupid and worthless. Because of this rejection, I carried a sense of worthlessness into my earlier life. I was afraid , I had nothing to offer.
many of us lament that we have little or no talent, gifts or special abilities, there are others with much greater handicaps who are simply doing better. I remember a person ,born blind with whom I had a company for half an hour in a function and had a little talk and to my great surprise he recognized me by my voice when I saw him again after eighteen long years .You can begin to discover talents that you never thought you had, by asking God, by taking action and not quitting.Keep doing! You learn from experience. The more you do, the more you will develop the talents that can be used for God's glory.

A person who is born PM & CM has unfortunately , no journey to make and I do not think what joy and pleasure he/she derives who got a place or position without enjoying or suffering (call joy of sufferings ) or risking something that he has. Goal without journey has no meaning ;the longer the journey the greater the goal . This is like to get some thing on charity and get some thing by earning . Both are different things , I think .

TEACHINGS OF AADIGURU SHANKARACHARYa

"Loud speech, profusion of words, and possessing skillfulness in expounding scriptures are merely for the enjoyment of the learned. They do not lead to Real -knowledge or Realization of Self ,
What is inquiry into the Truth? It is the firm conviction that the Self is real, and all, other than That, is unreal.
Knowing that I am different from the body, I need not neglect the body. It is a vehicle that I use to transact with the world. It is the temple which houses the Pure Self within.
The jiva (living being) is endowed with ego and his knowledge is limited, whereas Ishwar is without ego and is omniscient.
The witness of the three states of consciousness [waking, dream and deep sleep] and of the nature of Existence-Consciousness-Bliss is the Self
Thus one should know oneself to be of the nature of Existence-Consciousness-Bliss[Sat-Chit-A

nanda].
There is sorrow in finitude. The Self is beyond time, space and objects. It is infinite and hence of the nature of absolute happiness.
Each thing tends to move towards its own nature. I always desire happiness which is my true nature. My nature is never a burden to me. Happiness is never a burden to me, whilst sorrow is.

1. Seek Govinda(god)! Seek Govinda! Seek Govinda! Oh ignoramus, at the time of death the rules of grammer, which you are trying to cram and master, will not be able to rescue you at all.
    
2. The world which is full of attachments, aversions, etc., is like a dream. It appears to be real, as long as it continues but appears to be unreal when one is awake (i.e., when true wisdom dawns).
    
3. Day and night, dawn and dusk, winter and spring, all these are flitting across the stage of the world. While time thus is frolicking and befooling us, our life span is also running out; yet we do not , even a little, give up the clinging to our desires, nor do we let the desires loosen their grip on us.
    
4. Free yourself from lust, anger, greed and delusion. Contemplate on 'who you are'. Enquire within yourself, who am I ? The fools who fail to apprehend the Self are caught in hell-fire even here and now itself and suffer torture.
    
5. Among the contributory factors of liberation, devotion stands supreme, and it is the search for one's own true nature that is meant by devotion.
    
6. Reality can be experienced only with the eye of understanding, not just by a scholar. What the moon is like must be seen with one's own eyes. How can others do it for you?
    
7. Only those who have achieved samadhi and who have withdrawn the external senses, the mind and their sense of doership into their true nature as consciousness are free from being trapped in the snare of samsara, not those who just repeat the statements of others.
    
8. Direct the mind resolutely towards God, restraining the senses in their various seats, and looking on the state of the body as a matter of indifference. Realise your oneness with God, remaining continually intent on identifying with its nature, and joyfully drink the bliss of God within, for what use is there in other, empty things? From a clear knowledge of the Bhagavad Gita all the goals of human existence become fulfilled. Bhagavad Gita is the manifest quintessence of all the teachings of the Vedic scriptures.

NON -VIOLENCE , THE CARDINAL VIRTUE TO GANDHI

The Means to Ends are corrupt, not the ends because the ends are the crops that we harvest .Means are the seeds and ends the fruits . As you show so shall you reap .The means ,smallest that may be ;should be pure and pious .
The more laws, more police , more inspection and more inquiry shows that we are growing more and more corrupt (call ourselves civilized).Really to root out corruption we need more ,better and proper /right education .We have to make corrupt -proof individual . here Gandhi comes to our rescue .we should apply RIGHT means to achieve any thing in our life .

"माता सम देखहिं पर नारी ;धनु पराव विष ते विष भारी (रामचरितमानस में तुलसी )
our culture allows us to have one woman as wife and others as mothers and if we are not honest and moral , we can suffer as ever .To love one person as wife or husband and to deceive her/him in love is moral meanness and worst of corruptions .a person who commits adultery is a criminal (Bible )
There are varieties of poisons and thousands ways to kill men but the money and the means that is not earnestly your, is the most fatal than any .( and this poison i.e. corrupt money and means every one is striving to earn extraordinarily ,amazingly and deliberately .) 

It has always seemed strange to me... the Virtues we admire viz. kindness , generosity, openness, honesty, understanding and feeling, are the concomitants of failure in our society and those vices we condemn, sharpness, greed, acquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and self-interest, are the common clue to success. Vow ! we admire the first and strive for second for instant results seems to be success , although we know , these bring to us unending miseries .
Love begets love and hate begets hate. Hate can not win hate but love wins hate . Love does not win love but begets love . Hate can neither win hate nor love it begets only hate and enmity . Thus hate has nothing to win but love has to win but hate . Love never does win love ;love begets love and love always sacrifices to other love . So violence has to be won only by non-violence . Non-violence is relevant till the violence prevails . Violence has to win but nothing .Say -  violence has no winning power or potential .Non-violence has it .
That is why in all religions Truth has been crowned. In our Vaidic scriptures it has been said " it is Truth that wins not the untruth " " सत्यमेव जयते नानृतम " . The weapon of Gandhi is non-violence ;the well thought theory as violence has no winning power ,it can defeat none ; it is born to be defeated only and non- violence is born to win violence . this is All-time ,Eternal Rule of Nature and no power can record it otherwise . this simple premise says - "Gandhi whose weapon is non-violence is eternal winner and therefore Gandhi is relevant till there is violence and war . peace does not go to war but see ! war always goes to peace (world history )
In any activity of life ,therefore , non-violence is the test. non-violence is next to truth . Gandhi says - truth is not known to us nor easily attainable .non-violence is real and practical truth to us . if you follow non-violence you follow the truth . therefore any action having the slightest tinge of violence can not be regarded as Right Means and the Ends thus achieved are devastating and ruinous . non-violence is the test of all the actions and means that gives us a perfect human trait . in Bible Jesus calls the man as the Salt of the Earth and this Salt in man is nothing but non-violence and love (positive of non-violence ) . the aim is to develop an individual as to make him feel and realize that he is the part of the whole humanity and in all activities he feels this Oneness . " सो अहम् अस्मि इति वृत्ति अखंडा " (तुलसी रामचरितमानस में ) और "सोअहम अस्मि " (ईशावाश्य उपनिषद /१६ ) " That I (also) am
''So we can conclude the Non-violence /Love is the Cardinal Virtue to MK.Gandhi that made him Mahatma ;The Great Soul and the cardinal Sin is all that is thought .done or behaved touched with violence .

OF WISDOM

What is God?
The Mind of the universe.
What is He?
All that you see, and all that you don't see.
Guide and guardian of the universe,
Soul and spirit of the world,
Builder and master of so great a work-
to Him all names belong.
Would you call Him Destiny?
You will not err.
Cause of causes, all things depend on Him.
Would you rather say Providence?
This will be right.
By His plan the world is guided safely through its motions.
Or Nature?
This title does Him no wrong.
Of Him are all things born, and in Him all things live.
Or Universe?
You are not mistaken.
He is all that we see,
wholly present in every part,
sustaining this entire creation.  -  SENECA

To many it is not given to hear of the Self. Many, though they hear of
it, do not understand it. Wonderful is he who speaks of it. Intelligent
is he who learns of it. Blessed is he who, taught by a good teacher, is
able to understand it.
The truth of the Self cannot be fully understood when taught by an
ignorant man, for opinions regarding it, not founded in knowledge, vary
one from another. Subtler than the subtlest is this Self, and beyond all
logic. Taught by a teacher who knows the Self and Brahman as one, a man
leaves vain theory behind and attains to truth.
The awakening which you have known does not come through the intellect,
but rather, in fullest measure, from the lips of the wise....
Words cannot reveal him. Mind cannot reach him. Eyes do not see him.
How then can he be comprehended, save when taught by those seers who
indeed have known him? --Upnishad

Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not rely on your own insight.
In all your ways acknowledge him
and he will make straight your paths. -- Judaism

" Call on your Lord with humility and in private."
" Prayer restrains one from shameful and unjust deeds; and remembrance of
God is the greatest thing in life, without doubt."
" The true believers are those whose hearts are filled with awe at the
mention of God, and whose faith grows stronger as they listen to His
revelations. They put their trust in their Lord, pray steadfastly, and
give in alms of that which We have given them. Such are the true
believers. They shall be exalted and forgiven by their Lord, and a
generous provision shall be made for them." -- Quran

OF LIFE

Some time and amost  I read ,understand ,feel and experience  ; myself in many others , who lived their lives and left their feelings and experiences in their  words ,same to same in thoughts and actions then I feel ,I need not labour and think better to put them in my place   - (my full agreement with them and their thoughts and words ) ..........
" Three passions have governed my life:
The longings for love, the search for knowledge,
And unbearable pity for the suffering of [humankind].

Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness.
In the union of love I have seen
In a mystic miniature the prefiguring vision
Of the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.

With equal passion I have sought knowledge.
I have wished to understand the hearts of [people].
I have wished to know why the stars shine.

Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens,
But always pity brought me back to earth;
Cries of pain reverberated in my heart
Of children in famine, of victims tortured
And of old people left helpless.
I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot,
And I too suffer.
This has been my life; I found it worth living."
- Bertrand Russell
" I believe in cultivating opposite, but complementary views of life, and I believe in meeting life's challenges with contradictory strategies. I believe in reckoning with the ultimate meaninglessness of our existence, even as we fall in love with the miracle of being alive. I believe in working passionately to make our lives count while never losing sight of our insignificance. I believe in caring deeply and being beyond caring. It is by encompassing these opposites, by being involved and vulnerable, but simultaneously transcendent and detached, that our lives are graced by resilience and joy." - Fritz Williams
" Live a good life. If there are gods and they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone, but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones. I am not afraid." - Marcus Aurelius
" The same stream of life that runs through my veins night and day runs through the world and dances in rhythmic measures. It is the same life that shoots in joy through the dust of the earth in numberless blades of grass and breaks into tumultuous waves of leaves and flowers. It is the same life that is rocked in the ocean-cradle of birth and of death, in ebb and in flow. I feel my limbs are made glorious by the touch of this world of life. And my pride is from the life-throb of ages dancing in my blood this moment." ( from Gitanjali - Rabindranath Tagore )
" However mean your life is, meet it and live it: do not shun it and call it hard names. Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Things do not change, we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts."  - Henry David Thoreau
" The best things in life are nearest: Breath in your nostrils, light in your eyes, flowers at your feet, duties at your hand, the path of right just before you. Then do not grasp at the stars, but do life's plain, common work as it comes, certain that daily duties and daily bread are the sweetest things in life."  - Robert Louis Stevenson
" When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard," I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?"
- Sydney J. Harris
" You desire to know the art of living, my friend? It is contained in one phrase: make use of suffering."
- Henri-Frederic Amiel

BEST OF CHARLES ROGELL "CHUCK" SWINDOLL

A family is a place where principles are hammered and honed on the anvil of everyday living.
A teardrop on earth summons the King of heaven.
Alleged "impossibilities" are opportunities for our capacities to be stretched.
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
The difference between something good and something great is attention to detail.
The remarkable thing is, we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
The secret of living a life of excellence is merely a matter of thinking thoughts of excellence. Really, it's a matter of programming our minds with the kind of information that will set us free.
The swift wind of compromise is a lot more devastating than the sudden jolt of misfortune.
We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.
When I think of vision, I have in mind the ability to see above and beyond the majority.  
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.
We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I
react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
“I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude. It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position. Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me.”-  Charles R. Swindoll.** Charles Rozell "Chuck" Swindoll ( October 18, 1934) is a Christian Pastor  (a minister in charge of a Christian church or group, especially in some Nonconformist churches ),teacher ,preacher and educator . He founded Insight for Living, currently headquartered in PlanoTexas which airs a radio program on more than 2,000 stations around the world in 15 languages. He is currently the senior pastor in Texas -Church .
quoted with thanks to C.R.Swindoll 

GANDHI THE BEST FOLLOWER

" To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest. " - MK Gandhi .
so and so said it - and Gandhi did it .
Lord Krishna asked Arjun to fight against Kaurawas in Mahabharat the great war and finally convinced Arjun to fight for the cause of right and justice ;Gandhi learned it in Gita and fought with the same intent in South Africa and in India against English people but without any violence, having all love and compassion to English People . He followed Gita - to fight for the right cause but in a novel spirit of non-violence and proved to the world that he was the worst enemy and the best friend to English people in India . He followed both the Gita and the Bible at the same time i.e 1- fight for the Right and 2 - love your enemy (ironically)
Tulasidas in Ramcharitmanas said - Ram the son of Dashrath ,king of Ayoddhya was GOD /Brahma ;the Universal Soul and Gandhi accepted this without any argument that RajaRam (King Ram) was GOD and became fearless(Fearlessness one of his eleven ashram -vows that had to be fallowed by all in ashram ). Had Gandhi been a philosopher (like Shankaracharya or Immanuel Kant) he would have never been accepted this so blindly (as suggested by Tulasidas ) and to our good understanding this Raja Ram helped him throughout his life ,in struggle and in success as he declares himself in his autobiography 'My Experiment With Truth " . This Ram is the Truth personified for Gandhi and HIS life is the source of all moral ,social and all cardinal Indian virtues that Gandhi applied in his life (Gandhi had read only Gita and Ramcharitmanas of all Indian scriptures like great Vedas and Upnishads the great philosphical treatises . Gandhi's dream was to establish RAM_RAJY in India same to Best of Communism but ruled by human virtues than that of money in communism .
" रघुपति राघव राजाराम .पतितपावन सीताराम "  --     और -  " तू ही राम है तू रहीम है तू करीम कृष्ण खुदा हुआ ;तू ही वाहे गुरु तू इसूमसीह हर नाम में तू समा रहा " .( Means all the names of God in all the Religions are but different languages ;Gandhi calls Him - 'Ram'

" Disobedience is the true foundation of liberty. The obedient is a slaves.

As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.
As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness." -Henry David Thoreau .
These are some of the lines that Gandhi fallowed of Thoreau,the American thinker for his Civil -disobedience word and practiced in India but excluded Thoreau's idea of use of violence and called it Nonviolent -civil -disobedience (savinay awgyaaandolan ).
 “I choose my physician and my clergyman, thus indicating my sense of the quality of their work.” By all means, also, choose your bricklayer; that is the proper reward of the good workman, to be “chosen.” The natural and right system respecting all labour is, that it should be paid at a fixed rate, but the good workman employed, and the bad workman unemployed. The false, unnatural, and destructive system is when the bad workman is allowed to offer his work at half-price, and either take the place of the good, or force him by his competition to work for an inadequate sum. " -- J.Ruskin from Unto This Last . Gandhi followed Ruskin and talked of Dignity of Labour (one of his eleven Ashram vows)
 Tolstoy, Romain Rolland and J.Ruskin deeply influenced his life. Gandhi admitted: "I derived great inspiration from ‘Unto this last' by Ruskin and his concept that good individual is contained in the good of all". The concept of Sarvodaya and Antyodaya were the products of this influence. Following Ruskin, Gandhi stated: "Whenever you are in doubt or when the self becomes too much with you, apply the following test: 'Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man whom you may have seen and ask yourself if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him. Will he gain anything by it? In other words, will it lead to Swaraj for the hungry and spiritually starving millions?’ then you will find your doubts and your self melting away." Tolstoy wrote his famous book 'The Kingdom Of God Is Within You’, which Gandhi followed and called it his ‘inner voice. But in essence it connotes conscience or conviction. (Gandhi's Human Touch a lecture by Madhu Dandwate )
Gandhi had great respect to 'Sermon On The Mount' and took it to his heart that it convinced him to be a Christian and he quoted and practiced in his life but the Christians thought these, mere a theory to be realized in some other worlds of God-Men .
Gandhi followed the theory of brotherhood and sacrifice in Quoran ;theory of compassion and oneness of Lord Bauddha and theory of Non-violence in Jainism and so on and so forth .Gandhi ,therefore was through and through a follower with all humility .He never claimed to be a leader but it seems to be right that the best follower is the great leader . Theories of many great men ,he took to action and successfully executed them and proved to be right and true .Really this was the novel and excellent contribution to GREAT HUMAN THOUGHTS ,  IN ACTION .

OF WOMAN TODAY

OF WOMAN TODAY
“Woman was taken out of man; not out of his head to top him, nor of his feet to be trampled ; but out of his side to be equal , in his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved”. Man and woman are tow in one ;'' गिरा अरथ ,जल बीचि सम कहियत भिन्न न भिन्न '' मानस में तुलसी जी means - man and woman are like word & meaning ; lie water & wave. compliment to each other ''जिय बिनु देह नदी बिनु बारी :तैसे नाथ पुरुष बिनु नारी . '' - means - body sans life ,river sans water and woman sans man can not exist.(ibid) No doubt women have been exploited amost in the whole world and caused great damage to us .(in China women were treated as matter/lifeless/without soul ) .
In India we had reverence for women in earlier culture but this vanished because of long slavery . Although we honored women in India as mothers rightly but today we are again going on the wrong line of west culture where we want to make a woman a man .This is dangerous . Women are neither inferior, nor equal or superior but different and Better Half (Ardhangini in Sanskrit) to man . So we should not try to make them ,men /fathers but women /mothers.Women ,genetically ,biologically ,physically and psychologically are different by the intent of Nature . Therefore , women should have different kind of physical training/exercise , as dance , education , movies ,drama and other many social and cultural activities that help them to make a home and bring-up children as expert mothers and teachers . they can contribute to world peace and war-less world by their representation in UNO and in politics also . They should wear lose cloth that appears peaceful ,serene and beautiful . they have not to loose their beauty ,delicacy and womanhood .If a man looks womanish ,he lose his repute then how it with woman who turns to be a man .? Then where will mother go ? we need great mothers , the symbol of purity ,knowledge , goodness , kindness, love and compassion that rare great men have .In prayer to God we say , - You are my mother , you are my father ... if we change our mothers in to fathers both will be lost . Being any and many thing else mother and father these two are one that can not be alternated . Let mothers should be mothers and so on ..... if we turn a woman in to man the number of men will be increased and that may cause chaos . women well educated , can play an important role in bringing a revolutionary change in world -peace and brotherhood .Let therefore women be grow as better women ,educated ,advanced and leaders in the field of education peace and moreover in their motherhood up to the excellence . we want great mothers ,great teachers .
" यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यंते रमंते तत्र देवताः।'' Where women are worshiped, goddesses dwell.

OF SACRIFICE , SERVICE & LOVE

The sacrifice that causes pain to you is no sacrifice. Real sacrifice give you a sense of relief, peace and pleasure. The Buddha sacrificed a kingdom to attain knowledge and opted begging in the streets (compare a common beggar who desire to be emperor through begging ) . both are the beggars ; one left the kingdom ;other desire kingship and one who renounced the kingdom is happy but the other who is beggar is unhappy . this is sacrifice for love ; love to knowledge . love to any thing ,if real, needs sacrifice ,sacrifice of any thing that had been dearest and costliest to you . love to any thing,thought or person ,needs sacrifice .
If you intend to serve many,you are in the line for greatness - wealth, return, satisfaction, reputation, & joy all of these in abundance . Lord Bauddha teaches us this great theory not by his preaching but by what he did in his own life and MK Gandhi and others many-grates .
He who would accomplish little must sacrifice little; he who would achieve much must sacrifice much; he who would attain highly must sacrifice greatly.
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The heights by great men reached and kept were not attained by sudden flight, but they, while their companions slept, were toiling upward in the night. -(  H.W.Longfellow )
For anything worth having one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice--no paper currency, no promises to pay, but the gold of real service. (John Burroughs )
Figure out what your purpose is in life, what you really and truly want to do with your time and your life then be willing to sacrifice everything and then some to achieve it. If you are not willing to make the sacrifice, then keep searching.
There will always be a sacrifice required for results. It is the early bird who gives up sleeping in to get the worm. To get what you want, right on the heels of deciding what that is, you must also decide what you will do in exchange
for the results you desire. (James R. Ball )
Any service done to any and all is motivated by love and the service means service before self that is not possible without sacrifice.those weak ,narrow minded and poor in thought and action can do no service. service is ,more the act of heart than of mind; more the act of courage and dedication than self interest . service to others in need is sublime Virtue of human kind on Earth .
In real love you want the other person's good. In romantic love, you want the other person . I love you not only for what you are, but for
what I am with you. I love you not for what you have made of yourself, but for
what you are making of me. love for you or any thing ,thought or person is amost in me and that I feel.I love because of love in me but caused by you . this love is exclusively mine but for you .
We say we love flower, and we pluck it...love tree and cut it ....
so I wonder & afraid when one says ,he loved me... You have choice to love any one you like but when any one loves you (Note ; really loves ) it is great blessing of God .
A person who loves does not harm even a leaf ;what to talk of flowers and men .
Love ,Service and Sacrifice  these three are in one of  Divine attributes and Cardinal Virtues.